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Understanding Coercive Control and How it Harms Children

Total Credits: 1.25 including 1.25 American Psychological Association, 1.25 Association of Social Worker Boards, 1.25 National Board of Certified Counselors, 1.25 California Board of Registered Nurses

*Area of Emphasis: Child Abuse |  *Area of Emphasis: Domestic Violence |  Child Trauma - Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) |  Intimate Partner Violence |  Trauma in General
Dr. Emma Katz, Ph.D.
Course Levels:
1.25 Hour
Audio and Video


This presentation begins by explaining the nature of coercive control: a form of severe abuse most commonly perpetrated by men against women and children. Coercive control involves situations where a perpetrator subjects their partner and children to persistent, wide-ranging controlling behavior over a long period of time and makes it clear that standing up for themselves will be punished. By repeatedly punishing their partner/children for non-compliance, the perpetrator intends to demoralize and terrorize them into a state of permanent subjugation, stripping them of their human rights, freedoms, and liberties. Coercive controllers use multiple tactics of abuse, and every tactic harms the lives of the children in the family as well the life of the adult victim-survivor. During the presentation, we will explore quotes from mothers and children who have participated in research on coercive control. In these quotes, survivor mothers and children describe their lived experiences. The presentation emphasizes that coercive controllers usually continue their abuse for many years after their partner has ended the intimate relationship, perpetrating post-separation coercive control. The presentation calls for children and victimized parents to be considered co-victims and co-survivors. It emphasizes that the route to survivors regaining their rights, freedoms, and liberties is for societies to robustly tackle perpetrators, hold them accountable, and to curb their ability to continue abusing. 

After this presentation, attendees will be able to:

  1. Explain ten (10) tatics of coercive control used by perpetrators.
  2. Demonstrate how children's lives are affected by perpetrators' regimes of coercive control while children and their victim-survivor parent are still living with the perpetrator.
  3. Identify how children's lives are affected by perpetrators' ongoing coercive control of them and their victim-survivor parent in the post-separation period. 



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Durham University

Dr Emma Katz is Associate Professor at Durham University, UK.

She is an award-winning, internationally renowned expert in domestic abuse and coercive control, whose work has influenced policy and professional practice in the UK and globally.

Dr Katz’s book, Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives (2022, Oxford University Press) is described by Professor Evan Stark as a ‘pioneering work’ that ‘will change how we understand and respond to children’s experience of domestic abuse’.

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